Fake Out

I know we all remember the cartoons we watched while growing up with characters that always played tricks on each other. One of the most popular  would be a booby trap when a person would walk over an area that seems and looks like it’s stable to hold their weight. They step on what looks like the ground only to find it was a trap and they end up falling into the ground. Even though it’s a light hearted scenario, unfortunately as women we use this same trap within our own lives.

We continue to cover up pain of pasts scars, heartbreak and disappointments with a superficial layer to fake the world out. So to the world we seem perfectly healthy, happy, and completely satisfied with life. Although we strive to be at this point in our lives many of us are still learning and tackling to get to this destination. Instead of using a fake grass covering to cover the emptiness we use success, labels and accomplishments. Yes, it’s wonderful to continue to strive to do better but real growth comes from inward and eventually will work itself to exteriors parts of your life.  I meet numerous people whose resumes are outstanding but when you dig deeper there’s insecurity, pain and a lack of life fulfillment.

It’s vital that you don’t continue to place a band aid on the same cut that is not healing. Make sure you dig deeper in life and take time to deal with any past pain. Putting on a façade is simply tiring and will create an inner battle of your true feelings between you are trying to represent or image.  Instead of us keeping busy all the time to forget the pain, take time and stare it dead in the eye. Once the healing process begins and you then can build on who you truly are as a person. Growth in a person begins when your image and you true self gradually begin to meet.

Miracles & Blessings,

Ellisa Oyewo