In Her Shoes Home
Clink! As she attempted to get her first taste, the spoon from the ice cream bowl fell and hit the car floor. She stared at the spoon on the passenger’s side of the car. And in 3…2…1 seconds the water works from her eyes started to pour down her cheeks. Surprisingly, this is not about a toddler or a child but a twenty-something-year-old successful African American female. Her reason for crying was not simply about dropping her spoon but the fact that she had built up frustration. This was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I also plead guilty to the crime of keeping everything inside until the smallest thing triggers my boiling point. For many women it’s fear of opinions and not wanting to inconvenience others with problems that make us keep everything inside. We often tend to feel guilty for being vulnerable. Everyday we push through unexpected problems and keep everything pinned up. We have to remember we can only take so much in without releasing it. The problem with this is that we don’t necessarily know when we’re at a breaking point is going to hit and who will get the brunt of it.
Have an outlet: If you feel as if you’re always bothering someone with your problems (which you’re not) find a creative outlet. If it’s just writing in a journal every evening to release some tension. The point is that you have to release your aggression and anger on a constant basis so you’re not dragging all that baggage with you day in and day out. You’ll be surprised who is open to lend an ear for you to vent and what masterpieces you can create if you channel your aggression productively.
Miracles & Blessings,