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Yes, It’s A Big Deal!

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By In Her Shoes Contributor: Ellisa Oyewo

When was the last time you actually told yourself “Yes, it’s a big deal” when it came to your accomplishments? Hmmm…having a bit of trouble recalling that moment? Well, for most of us acknowledge the personal triumphs we achieve in our lives is almost unheard of. In a world full of overnight fame and the need to compare our lives to others, it’s tough to shine a light on our own personal successes. From media to family pressure, it can be difficult to beat the “not good enough yet” mentality we may have surrounding us. The good news is that it’s never too late to make a change. Check out some ways to embrace your “big deals” in life:

Time to Celebrate – Ok, so you’re constantly getting bombarded with graduation, wedding & birthday invites where you feel responsible to celebrate other’s accomplishments. Why not do it for yourself? I’m not saying you have to call every single one of your girls to celebrate each move made but you can definitely celebrate solo. We often search outwardly for approval and praise but oftentimes the best gift to yourself is simply saying “I’m proud of you!”

Hidden Treasures – Promotions, winning a marathon, and traveling the world are all wonderful accomplishments but you don’t have to wait until you make major changes in life to celebrate these golden times. It can be as simple as conquering five extra minutes on the treadmill or writing a fresh new idea for your business plan. These moments are just as important as the final goal because these are the steps that create and turn your dream into reality. Each one is necessary, so don’t ignore them.

Stop! – Yes, one word that is extremely difficult for most of us to comprehend and put into action. The most important key to embracing your achievements is simply taking 2-3 minutes and being grateful. Just heard good news? You don’t need to call everyone in your phone book to get their reaction…take a moment and let the good news marinate. Try sitting still and taking a moment to smile at yourself or going to your fave café and ordering a sweet treat. Life is more fulfilling when you begin to acknowledge the fact that you conquer barriers everyday, you just have to pay attention.

In a world of instant gratification, we always want to see the final results as soon as we start putting in the work. Just because you’re not seeing movement immediately does not mean your work is in vain. Once you arrive at your final goal it’s not the ending point you celebrate but the steps you took to get there. Embrace the journey!

As a New York City storyteller, filmmaker, digital content creator, and PR strategist, Renae Bluitt created "In Her Shoes" to empower and enlighten women committed to realizing their dreams.


  1. Rashidah Ferguson

    May 9, 2012 at 9:43 pm

    I read your blog everytime you have a new post. keep inspiring.

  2. Michi

    May 9, 2012 at 10:36 pm

    Wonderdul read, Ellisa! I am a big supporter of applauding yourself on minor breakthroughs. It’s truly the recipe to a happy life!

  3. Crystal

    May 10, 2012 at 9:15 am


  4. KMN

    May 10, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    This post came right on time for me. I just got a promotion and have been adamant about keeping it hush-hush throughout the office. But thank you for this article because I plan on having a mini celebration this weekend because of it. I worked hard and I deserve it! 🙂


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