Are You Wright?

This past Friday, I went to see the talented Queen Latifah and handsome Common grace the big screen in “Just Wright.”  The movie was based on how Common and Queen Latifah end up falling in love despite its ups and downs. Initially Common went for what we would call the stereotypical type of beauty, Paula Patton,  before he truly appreciated all the qualities Queen Latifah had to offer.

After wooing over Common’s frame and cheek bones, I began to digress on the movie. Once we left the movie theater my friend and I stated that we’ve both felt like the role of Queen Latifah before.  We began to discuss the intense and sulky thought of feeling second best and not always being appreciated because of not necessarily fitting a certain mold.

At some point in our lives, we’ve all felt second best either in looks, careers, family, etc.  The funny thing about people is that we always think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.  We constantly see the light in others and the darkness in ourselves.  For instance, Paula’s character in the movie was insecure over her life and career and respected Queen’s career. And vice versa with Paula’s looks.

You never know what a person is truly going through which is why conforming is the worst way to cure the insecurity of feeling second best. If you don’t embrace yourself, you can give a huge kiss goodbye to anyone else noticing your amazing traits. Whatever it is that makes you feel second best, stare it dead in the eye and embrace it fully.  Loving yourself unconditionally will only elevate you and catapult you to a new level of peace in your life. Do not give people the pleasure of defining you, make it your purpose to stay true to yourself.

Miracles & Blessings,

Ellisa Oyewo