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My First Love…

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Valentine’s Day is upon us…the day when Corporate America blatantly reminds us to tell our closest friends, family and lovers that we (gasp) LOVE THEM. As you can tell by the tone of my intro, I’m not one of those women who totally lives for Valentine’s Day. Truth be told, I’d rather give and receive random acts of love year ’round. I guess I’ve taken a lot of stress off the men I’ve dated on this highly anticipated holiday with this way of thinking,  but only to keep them on their toes the remaining 364 days of the year. Ha!

All jokes aside, let’s really think about this. Every year we set aside one day – Valentine’s day – to acknowledge LOVE. Almost everyone becomes obsessed with trying to decide what gift to give their loved one on this “special” day.

Retailers feed this obsession by decorating their windows, and stocking up (soon after Christmas) with the traditional Valentine’s Day theme of red, heart-shaped “I Love You” signs and love-laced gifts. Now everyone is working themselves into a frenzy thinking about the “love gift”–this “thing” that’s supposed to represent their love. Would it surprise you to know that most of these people don’t even love themselves enough on a daily basis to give themselves that special consideration, the love they need — even on a special day?


So my question to you my dear readers is this: what do you love about yourself? What do you do – for the love of you – on a regular basis? 

Celebrating your love for others on Valentine’s Day is beautiful…but while you’re at it, take a few minutes to think about your first love – YOU!

So ummmm, speaking of first loves…here’s a little Valentine’s Day gift for you from In Her Shoes:

Have a fabulous weekend!

As a New York City beauty PR strategist, Renae Bluitt created "In Her Shoes" to empower and enlighten women committed to realizing their dreams.


  1. Dee Dee Faison

    February 13, 2009 at 9:03 am

    This is so true and a definite confirmation for me. For the first time in my life, I’m really not checking for Valentine’s Day but rather checking for the things that make me happy every single day.

    Thanks for the continued inspiration and keep being YOU!

  2. Lizz Fields

    February 13, 2009 at 9:31 am

    Something I do for myself everyday all day is have an open conversation with my truest and first love of all, GOD! WIthout HIM, I’d be lost, for real. Thankfully, my legs, feet, arms and brain work well enough to reinvigorate myself at the gym. What a way to keep those lovely endorphins awake and active!

  3. Trizonna

    February 13, 2009 at 10:09 am

    Lizzie I’m with you on that one! Renae, thank you for asking the question and posting my favorite guys…New Edition minus the heartbreak of course…lol

  4. Naki

    February 13, 2009 at 1:16 pm

    I love to eat, and I love taking myself on dates to favorite restaurants. Just me, lots of good food and wine! 😉 Happy Valentine’s Day!

  5. brook

    February 13, 2009 at 2:07 pm

    Um, me? The life I live is the love I give to myself. Presence in every moment of every minute of every day was the gift I realized from my pilgrimage to Machupiccu. I wonder now, where the hell was I for the last few years? I know I was here but what was I doing?

    BTW, Renae you’re doing your thing with this for real! I can’t stand “retail money day,” I mean Valentine’s Day but I love the date because its my parent’s wedding anniversary!


  6. rebecca

    February 13, 2009 at 8:35 pm

    SO true girl! And thanks for posting “Candy Girl,” Ralph was my favvvorite! MUAH ;*

  7. Ms. Johnnie

    February 14, 2009 at 7:43 am

    I’m totally on the same page as Lizz. Wow, there are sooo many things I do for myself throughout the year that say, MUWHAZ I LUV ME! A few examples:
    -fresh flowers from my favorite florist in Manhasset
    -new lipsticks and glosses from the MAC counter
    -a trip to beacons ( my favorite store in the universe)
    -solo commutes to Soho to stroll down Broadway and have some ME TIME
    Valentines Day should be celebrated 365 days a year as you celebrate your most important luv-YOU!


  8. Rasu

    February 14, 2009 at 10:08 am

    Nice read! Yeah, you know Corp America will find any and everything possible to capitalize on. Regardless, Happy Valentines Day! <3

  9. Ylorie

    February 14, 2009 at 4:20 pm

    Isn’t it amazing that days like these make you ponder love? Hmm, if only we took time to revel in love and reveal it all year round there would be no commercial hype. But then, being the shopper that many of us are, we like the hype. I’m with Renae though, this has never been one of my “days” because I enjoy so many other things like:
    1 – first day (real day) of summer
    2 – fresh flowers with smells that fill a room / house
    3 – the laughter of children and/or friends
    4 – and NEW EDITION too!

    Had to end with that one b/c you know I’m long winded!

  10. Lorraine Natasha West

    February 15, 2009 at 10:18 am

    It’s a pleasure practicing self love…thanks for the reminder to stay on point 365 a year with self!
    Happy Heart Day everyday!

  11. Anise

    February 16, 2009 at 7:19 am

    Thank you for posting this one. I know I am a couple days late. The funny thing is that American society has capitalized and commercialized what was actually a really bloody day. St. Valentine was massacred, and here we are celebrating..But I digress. I agree, you have to show love every day, not just one day. I have also learned that I have to live and walk in love, not just for others but myself. I can’t truly give love to anyone if I can’t love myself first. I now date myself, and I have to admit that I am pretty good company. Love yourself, love life and be thankful for every day you have the chance to grow.

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